To Be Where You Need To Be, You Must Accept Where You Are

There has been a theme these past few months. Let me know if you connect with this: To be where you need to be, you must accept where you are.

When I’ve said this to people, I’ve noticed two reactions: people are either hit with clarity or immediately feel angry. Whichever you’re met with when hearing or reading “accept where you are to get to where you’re going,” ask yourself why that is your reaction. 

Is the clarity you experience after trying to push your way to where you want to be? Is the anger you’re experiencing during years of you trying to make your way to where you want to be? Or is it due to fear? Maybe grief?

If we are constantly living in the future, how can we provide what we need for ourselves in the present? 

For example, a client with an inflammatory disease experienced excruciating pain and found herself in a wheelchair. She desperately searched for things to help ease her pain and help her walk again. She did find some relief, but she felt the pain immediately creep back in and was still unable to move without a wheelchair. Every day, this person would experience anger, depression, and sadness due to the effects and reality of this condition.

When you’re in pain, it becomes your total focus. You search only for things that will help ease that pain, which is understandable. Most of the time, what we find can help reduce the pain temporarily, and/or it makes it worse in the long run. When people hear, “Accept where you are,” they think of defeat because many feel they’re being asked to “give in” to the disease. But, you are actually choosing to listen to what your body needs at the moment. It is not defeat; it is quite the opposite.

My client accepted her current situation by admitting the unknown time length of her condition, accepting this condition came with discomfort, and realizing the uncertainty of being mobile without a wheelchair. Her mindset began to shift. Instead of focusing on a place she is not, she started researching her inflammatory disease to understand how to support herself within the condition.

My client discovered that specific foods triggered her pain, so she completely changed her diet. After self-exploring, there was clarity on what eased pain at the moment. Making changes also makes her mentally accept the unclarity of how long she will be in the wheelchair. All of these changes she made not only shifted her mental & emotional health but it helped her pain physically. 

We’re trying to heal a physical body that is not there in the future. When we shift our mindset to the here and now and understand where we are with our conditions, we begin to experience mental, emotional, and physical healing.

So, again, I say this isn’t defeat, but quite the opposite. You’re taking your power back and changing your mindset. There’s so much power in understanding what you can control. 

My client no longer needs a wheelchair and is just fine while managing her inflammatory disease. 

Everyone’s body and situations are different. Healing comes in various forms.

Erica Ware – Owner of Holistic Bodywork

Okay, But Change Your Diet First

“When diet is wrong, medicine is of no use. When diet is correct, medicine is of no need.” – Ayurvedic Proverb.

Our diet is crucial for a healthy body, mind, spirit, and soul, but it is also one of the things we abuse. Most of us are too busy to take the time to prepare meals, don’t understand what our body needs, and are unaware we have unhealthy diets or are on a cookie-cutter diet. So many illnesses, diseases, pains, and even mental and emotional upset come from poor diets. 

Did you know things like inflammation in the body (arthritis, asthma, gastritis, etc.), seasonal allergies, mood, and energy are affected by your diet? All these listed depend on a healthy gut (stomach, intestines, spleen).

The next time you wake up with a crushing headache, sinus pressure, and sneezing, ask yourself, “What have I been eating?” Have you consumed dairy, sugar (bread and pasta), processed and deep-fried foods? If you have, this can encourage a slow-moving digestive system which allows everything to sit in your body a little longer than it should, turning into phlegm or inflammation. Now, I’m not saying 100% of your ailments come from your diet; it is just a really, really good place to start, and what you eat can exacerbate your symptoms.

When my clients see me about herbal medicine, I always recommend they see Jessica Hill Powell, the health & wellness coach at Meridian Integrative Wellness. Most of the time, we have an attachment to our diets – Jessica helps us figure out that attachment and create a healthy relationship with food. When diet is taken care of, my clients tell me they feel at least 90% better. 

Did you know herbs used in Herbal Medicine can be included in your diet? Yeah, food is your medicine. Herbs like dates, blackberry, red grapes, and other things encourage a healthy heart, kidneys, and arteries. Dan Gui (women’s ginseng) root is often used in soup or stir fry.

Want to increase your health or begin healing your pains and disease? Take a look at your diet. Pharmaceuticals have their place and can work wonders when absolutely needed, but I wonder where our health would be if we put effort into understanding the perfect diet for ourselves.

Interested in Herbal Medicine? Get more information Here.

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Erica Ware – Owner of Holistic Bodywork

The Importance of Emotions

Emotions can be tricky, or instead, we make them tricky. We label them as “Good” and “Bad” feelings, which encourages us only to feel specific emotions and run away from others.

Let’s look at what most call “Good” emotions:

  • Happiness
  • Love
  • Pleased
  • Inspired
  • Motivated
  • Relaxed
  • Peaceful
  • Amused

And now the “Bad” emotions:

  • Depressed
  • Heavy
  • Upset
  • Jealousy
  • Rejected
  • Abused
  • Angry

How do you feel when you see the emotions you sometimes or frequently experience listed as “Bad”? 

I’ll share how I feel: I felt “bad” or broken when I was told I should not be feeling jealousy, anger, depression, or sadness. I felt there was something wrong with me. I then masked those emotions with the “Good” feelings. The masking is the beginning of us losing our identity – we cover up what we feel and eventually who we are so that we fit in with a world that loves to tell us who we should be. Losing our identity takes us down the rabbit hole of continuous masking, and others’ identities become our own. 

What happens when we suppress our emotions? Stress translates to physical pain and, of course, mental and emotional upset. Some may experience bursts of anger, frustration, and weeping when feelings are hidden. Many people may feel this physically as low back pain, rib pain, or blockage in the throat. We are all living a different life than the next, and everyone’s body is not the same, so the same emotion can bring pain in other areas depending on the person. While I experience rib pain and low back pain when I feel anger, someone else may experience rib pain and stomach issues – it all lies at the root of the emotion. 

Emotions are human nature; they are essential for us to feel. They are vital to experience good health. Our emotions do not create illness within us; dwelling in emotion or stagnation of emotion is what harms us. We either decide to live our lives through these emotions, or we decide to evade these emotions by stuffing them down – this creates stagnation. This creates a loss of identity. This creates tension physically, mentally, and emotionally. 

How can you release your emotions? Again, this depends on the person, but here is a list of things that may help everyone and is healthy to partake in:

  • Breathing Meditation
  • Nature Walk
  • Barefoot Walk – Earthing
  • Craniosacral Therapy
  • TaiChi
  • Yoga
  • Journaling
  • Acupuncture
  • Exercising
  • Massage
  • Therapy

Another thing essential to the list, and it’s the most important thing, is You. Get to know yourself. Sit with yourself. Many say, “I don’t know how to do that” or “I don’t know where to start.” Well, you’re already doing the work by reading this blog. Ask yourself, “What brings me joy, happiness, calmness?” or to bring about the locked away emotion, ask, “What makes me emotional? Why?” When you think you’ve asked “Why?” enough, ask it again. When you feel that emotion arise, let it come, and at the moment, ask yourself, “What am I feeling? Why?”

Why do we label emotions as “Bad”? I believe it is a scary and shadowy path to walk down, and many are afraid of losing themselves, but it is in the shadows where we find the light. We don’t have to take it all on at once; we can do it slowly.

There are zero “Bad” emotions – they just “Are.” When we work to let them come, feel them, and understand them, we can let them go. This is a continuous reminder for myself, for all of us – it is a journey. While you’re on that journey, please remember that I, and your other practitioners, are here to walk beside you in the shadows. 

Erica Ware – Owner of Holistic Bodywork

Social Media? No Thanks, I’m Good!

It all started with excitement, curiosity, and new experiences. You introduced me to new friends and re-introduced me to people I had not heard from in so long. You were sure to tell me how beautiful and wise I was. When I was out of the loop, you updated me on recent “what haps.” The experience you gifted me was like no other.

Things, however, quickly changed. I began longing for your attention to tell me how beautiful and wanted I am. You introduced me to all of your mental and emotional abuse. Then you began keeping me from seeing friends and family or keeping them from seeing me. You instead began filling my mind with poison.

This sounds like a toxic relationship, right? Well, it was a relationship, but not with a person – this is with social media.

I’ve officially decided to leave social media for good. Wow – that feels good to type out. I don’t know about you all, or I may have an idea, but the addiction to social media is Real. This addiction creates mental & emotional stress and, we’ve seen, physical harm. Social media, in the beginning, was great for me. However, I began to realize how dependent on it I was. Dependent, yes. I’d wake up and check my news feed to get my daily dose of anger, stress, some funnies, and sadness from all of the other accounts experiencing the silent stress like me. I check my notifications so they’ll tell me how wonderful of a life I live and how I’m doing such a great job. Social media wasn’t something I did only in the morning; it was ALL DAY.

I decided to take many breaks from social media throughout the years, and it felt like something was being ripped from me – I missed the scrolling. I couldn’t make it a day without someone telling me, “that’s fire.” But here I am today, and I haven’t been on social media in a week, and it feels right. The difference? Honestly, I did some self-work and understood I don’t need to be told I’m wanted or beautiful because I’ve always been those things – it just took me some time to understand that. I also got tired of trying to be convinced that I should hate other people and that I should become distracted from my life’s work.

What happens when you realize you don’t need that from anyone else because you are it for yourself? You kick everyone else out from where they shouldn’t be, which is in your mind, body, and soul. When you do that, hell, you begin living for yourself, not the “That’s fire” comments on social media.

Now, in no way, shape, or form am I saying, “If you’re on social media, you’re doing it for the reasons listed above.” No, that is my experience. I, however, have spoken to many people with similar experiences.

I used to convince myself that I needed social media for work, to stay updated on the world, and to get my spiritual word out. The truth is, it was just an excuse for me to stay. No more.

So, here I am writing to you through my blog to get my word out while reading Google’s updated news for the day – all without social media.

Erica Ware – Owner of Holistic Bodywork

“Negative” Emotions are Healthy to Experience

The energy becomes negative once we begin to dwell or block these emotions – this is called stagnation. It is human to experience every emotion and feeling that flows through us.

I work with you to release this energy and stress by way of massage, craniosacral, and herbal medicine. I’m so happy to be with Meridian Integrative Wellness because they also offer coaching for life transitions and therapy to help you along your path.

We learn to navigate in the shadows so we can help guide you through yours.

Let’s Heal Together

Erica Ware Owner of Holistic Bodywork

Giving Matters – Healing the Community

Extending Energy to Heal Our Community – Opportunites for a Free Session


I am a person rooted in empowerment, healing, and change. My goal is to share my energy and encourage healing within others through my offered services. I have pondered how I can help others and my community for so long. I provide healing sessions and products, but I realize many of those are not accessible for everyone. With “Giving Matters,” I plan to extend my energy to help heal the community.

I believe understanding the importance of caring for each other is one of the critical missions in life. We can only help others if we have first helped ourselves. I plan to help others help themselves and hope they will help the next person.

It is beautiful to take care of each other just “because” and with no ulterior motives.

Giving matters is a program that presents more opportunities for people who do not have access to healing support. Every new season (equinox or solstice), one person from the Louisville community will enjoy a free session, and two other people will be chosen to enjoy an herbal product.

People who nominate someone will create an entry of one or two paragraphs about the nominee and why they should have the service or products.

The person chosen for the service, and the other two persons selected for the products, will be announced the day of the coming solstice or equinox. To begin your entry and to read more about the program, please visit the Giving Matters page.

This is only the beginning, and I hope you all join me on this path.

Let’s heal together,

Erica Ware – Owner of Holistic Bodywork

A New Home for Holistic Bodywork

With great excitement, I write to inform you that on May 1, 2021, Holistic Bodywork will reside in a more desirable location with comfortable surroundings. I will also be in partnership with Meridian Integrative Wellness in this new location! As mentioned when I reopened in May 2020, I am still taking precautions to keep the risk for COVID-19 exposure minimal. Social distancing and mask-wearing are still maintained along with the cleanliness of surfaces and increase ventilation via open windows when appropriate.

Our new address is 6006 Brownsboro Park, Suite B, and the phone number remains unchanged: (502) 294-6108. My email is still ericaware.lmt@gmail.com.

Our new location is in Brownsboro Office Park. It’s in the heart of Indian Hills, situated behind Fresh Market and Panera Bread at Brownsboro Road and Rudy Lane, convenient to l-264, l64, and l-71. You will find me inside of Meridian Integrative Wellness. It includes space more suited to our needs, including a well-maintained building and surrounding area, plentiful parking, a kitchenette for herbal medicine creations, and our private restroom facilities.

Since I opened my business, your loyal support has helped me grow. I am excited to continue this journey with you and provide needed healing. Attached, you’ll find a flyer that you can use to educate others about Holistic Bodywork and Meridian Integrative Wellness services. Would you consider passing it along to someone who may be in need of wellness support during this challenging time? You may also find more information by visiting our websites at www.theholisticbodywork.com & www.meridianiw.com.

If you have any questions about the new location or our services, please call or email us; we’d be happy to help.

What Meridian Integrative Wellness offers:

MIW is a team of highly qualified, multidisciplinary wellness practitioners on a mission to improve your health and well-being through one-on-one partnership and community learning. We serve as your bridge between information and transformation; information being the easy part (recommendations you receive from your health care providers, things you know you should be doing but don’t) and transformation being the hard part (figuring out how to actually implement healthy changes into your real life).

You’ve come to the right place if you want to get back into the driver’s seat of your own life, health and well-being.  We offer coaching (learning to quit self-defeating habits and creating new, healthier behaviors), counseling, biofeedback, as well as essential oils to address an array of wellness concerns.

New Office Location:

Below you will find the address and a map of my new location within Meridian Integrative Wellness!

Our new offices are conveniently located at 6006 Brownsboro Park Blvd., Suite B.

As always, please let me know if you have any questions!

Let’s continue to heal together.

Erica Ware LMT CST. Founder of Holistic Bodywork

How I Use Intuitive Healing

Learn how I use intuitive healing during sessions

I receive many questions about how I perform my sessions. People ask, “How do you know exactly where to go?” and “You know where to go before I explain my pain. How?” So, I’ve decided to share my style of work, and it’s called intuitive healing with energy work. I believe every healer uses some degree of intuition & energy.

Before I dive into that, here’s a short backstory of myself. If you’ve read the “Words from the Owner” on my Home page or the “About Me” on the Meet Erica page, then you know I’ve struggled with pain, anxiety, trauma, and depression. I also had a questionable diet that added pain to my body. On top of that, doctors told me I would have to deal with the pain or take a pill. I was discouraged, and my anxiety skyrocketed. 

At the age of seventeen, I began meditating, and this was when I had a formal introduction to my intuition. I’ve experienced my intuition at work many times before starting meditation, but I understood it and came into it after some inner work. What do I mean when I say “coming into my intuition”? Well, for example, I would experience cold feet, painful low back, or maybe tinnitus. I would close my eyes and feel a powerful pull to a specific point in my body, and I would massage it throughout the day for a few days. I then noticed my symptoms subsided, either entirely or close to it. This intuition also extended into herbal medicine. 

That intuitiveness I use to heal myself is the intuitiveness I use to help heal my clients and guide my clients to healing themselves. So, I feel the energy in my clients, and therefore I know where to go. In Craniosacral Therapy and Traditional Chinese Medicine, energy cysts or stagnated qi (energy) is collected in the body. This stagnation brings pain that is created by physical trauma, emotional & mental stress. This stagnated energy and energy cyst is what I usually feel in my clients. I see where it is, and I feel how deep it is; therefore, I go straight to it, and I work to release that area. After working in that area, I speak with my client about my findings to spark the beginning of self-healing, not just physically but emotionally & mentally.

My goal is to help people see the light in themselves the way I see it in myself. That light is what allowed me to heal and continue to heal, and one thing that light is called is self-power. 

With me, everything is on the table and I plan to be transparent from here on out – I feel we need more of that in this world. My intuition & energy work, combined with studying TCM theory, massage therapy, craniosacral therapy, and herbal medicine, allows me to do my job well. Thank you for trusting me and granting me the opportunity to walk with you on your path of healing!

Let’s continue to heal together

Erica Ware owner of Holistic Bodywork

Journey of a New Self

The one who starts the journey isn’t the one who finishes it – Sarah Elkhaldy.

When I am in the middle of a journey, and I’m sure this happens for many others, I notice I am not the person I was when I first began.  What does that mean? 

I remember desperately searching for someone to help me with several conditions I dealt with physically – restless leg syndrome, fatigue, painful muscles, etc.  Others continuously told me what to feel, I was told I didn’t know my body, and that a pill was the only fix for my pain. I felt my self-power disappearing, and it began creating stagnation for me emotionally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally – this on top of the trauma that existed. After an insightful dream, I sought out Traditional Chinese Medicine and Massage Therapy, and that is when my search began for self-power and self-healing.

I realized my physical pain furthered my emotional and spiritual pain, and vice versa. However, there is a balance within everything we do, so I knew this also meant that if I work on my trauma, I will begin to heal physically and vice versa.  With this knowledge and taking action, I discovered self-power. I started this healing journey timidly, fearful, and the thought I was frail – I am now healthy, powerful, and courageously myself. 

So, you see, the one who starts the journey isn’t the one who finishes it. You grieve the loss of the old self and celebrate the birth of the person you are – you begin to live life as you are. 

How the heck does this connect to bodywork?

I tell my clients often that beginning the journey of bodywork will not only lead to your body physically opening up, but it will lead to you opening mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  When you experience a trigger, it is often felt physically. The body stores the trigger’s reaction – this is one reason many people experience an array of emotions during the session, which is normal. Your body is trying to release the physical pain from trauma and experiences while also removing the emotional and mental attachments that keep the body in pain. When this happens, we are encouraged to ask ourselves tough “why” questions and explore the answers to those questions. We begin to heal that pain within us.

Let’s continue to heal together,

Erica Ware founder of Holistic Bodywork

Achieving Health with Balance

Photo by Joe Flobrant

We’re all told, “Balance is important,” and that it is something we should be doing. But what does that mean exactly, and how can we apply it to better ourselves physically?

Balance – this is one thing in life that many of us overlook quite easily. Yet, balance is an essential part of life, a necessity for a healthy life. What does it mean to have balance, especially physically? Well, some think it means to have an equal amount of specific things – for example, rest and movement, stretching and strengthening, stretching and resting. I believe balance is different for us all, for we are all ourselves and no one else like us. No one’s body is the same. While I may need more stretching in an area, someone else may need strengthening. Balance is working to keep continuous harmony – this means paying attention to the things that are out of balance instead of adding equal amounts to both. If my body is tight, more so on the right side, I will not stretch both sides equally because this will bring zero change. 

Let’s think about low back pain that is brought on by leaning to one side. If I lean more to my left side, I probably need to correct it by going to my right side.

Think of balance in your emotions – if my spirit sees more of the shadow side of life, I do not need equal light and shadow. Depending on where I am, I will need more light to achieve balance.  Let’s apply this lesson to our mental health. A journal by Noakes (2012) explains how fatigue is a brain-derived emotion to protect the body from over exhaustion and keep balance.  So, the next time you feel overwhelmed, and you begin shutting down, listen to it and rest. 

This lesson also helped me understand the injustice and racial problems today – paying attention to the things that are out of balance instead of adding equal attention. If we play neutral and give attention to everything equally right now, there will be zero change. Right now, this is out of balance, and it is what needs more attention now. But that’s for another conversation.

Stay safe and let’s continue to heal together!

Erica Ware – Founder and Owner of Holistic Bodywork