Healing – the loneliness and the heartbreak of healing are often overlooked.
When we look at the definition of “heal,” it says, “To become sound or healthy again. Alleviate a person’s distress or anguish”.
Now, looking at that definition, healing sounds beautiful. To heal means we will begin to experience our tailored version of happiness, introduce ourselves to the real us, and see the world in a new beautiful light. The pain that hurt us before no longer hurts us, or we have found healthy coping strategies. The triggers that, once triggered, are no longer effective. The anger we once had no longer exists. Healing is a beautiful thing.
It is also important to remember that once you step on the self-healing path, it is an authentic and raw experience. It can also be full of loneliness and heartbreak. When these aching feelings and thoughts pop up, most believe they’re not doing this healing thing correctly. But, as I tell most of my clients, it is a hint that you’re moving in the right direction. This is not to say that if you do not feel pain continuously, you are not healing. To feel some pain and loneliness on the healing path is expected.
Let’s look at Heal’s definition: “To become sound or healthy again. Alleviate a person’s distress or anguish.”. To become something means you are of something other than what your eyes or soul set on becoming. To want to become sound or healthy means, we are currently in a place where we are unhealthy and troubled. Solving a person’s distress or anguish means healing the areas that cause pain.
Where does the heartache come from? Healing patterns that have become destructive can look like changing routines, responses, and how we engage with people. We can only truly make changes by understanding the root of our patterns. Most of the time, this is done by digging up painful history, events, and trauma. Healing relationships with people in your life – This healing can change the relationship where there are more inclusions in each other’s lives. You may realize you must reduce interactions because the relationship adds unhappiness.
Once you begin healing mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically, you agree to a soulful detox. Though it is impossible to take our past and our patterns with us into this new chapter we crave, it does not stop us from trying. The heartache comes from understanding we cannot become who we’re meant to be until we let go of the things that keep us from Being our complete selves. Loneliness comes when we realize most of those patterns and distress also come with most of the people we surround ourselves with. So, as we let patterns and pain go, we also allow those people to go.
There will be beautiful moments, and there will be raw painful moments. This post is not to deter you from healing but to encourage more understanding and, therefore, better preparation.
The beauty in the healing path? This change allows us to introduce ourselves to the raw versions of ourselves and the rest of the world. As we continue to live as ourselves, others on the same energy wave will begin to gravitate toward us and us to them. Change is raw and painful, but the benefits are healing and beautiful.
When you begin to experience the rawness of healing, know that if you continue, you will experience and notice healing moments. You will see a trigger no longer triggers. You will notice healed reactions instead of wounded reactions. When you need support, contact your team: Therapist, Craniosacral Therapist, Shamanic Healer, Life Coach, Family, Friends, Mentors, and coping strategies.
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